Have you ever been in a relationship that was damaging to you as a person and a threat to your purpose in life? you feel it’s Hard to Break Up, Maybe, the relationship was distracting you from your schoolwork, causing problems in your business, creating division in your family, or causing you to compromise in your relationship with God. Perhaps, your relationship looked good on the outside and exemplified the perfect picture of a Power Couple. People admired your relationship and even tried to imitate it.
The only problem is when you found time by yourself, you begin to realize that inside you were unhappy. There was no real connection and you begin to lose your true identity and motivation to achieve your goals. Maybe you feel exhausted, drained, and unfulfilled. If you’re reading this article you’re probably ready for a change and realized that your relationships have been more harmful than helpful. The conviction and tension you feel within has pushed you to a position to finally declare
The only problem is when you found time by yourself, you begin to realize that inside you were unhappy. There was no real connection and you begin to lose your true identity and motivation to achieve your goals. Maybe you feel exhausted, drained, and unfulfilled. If you’re reading this article you’re probably ready for a change and realized that your relationships have been more harmful than helpful. The conviction and tension you feel within has pushed you to a position to finally declare
I don’t want to live like this
Six Reasons it’s Hard to Break Up
1. History
The longer you hold on to it, the harder it is to let it go. Over time sin will develop a stronghold in your life.
2. Denial
Often times people don’t break up in a relationship because they believe that their relationship is not causing them
any harm.
3. Relapse
Many people break up in relationships but return back to the same toxic relationship that they were in. Breaking up
with sin can be hard because of the number of times you’ve failed to let go.
4. Initial Acceptance
Sometimes it’s hard to let go of unhealthy relationships when you are attached to the feeling of being
wanted and accepted. Sin accepted you at birth and often caters
to your natural feelings and desires.
5. Bargaining
Breaking up with sin can be challenging when you bargain with your flesh and accept certain sinful behaviors in
your life.
6. Fear of starting over
Breaking up can seem like too much work, and you start to believe that it’s better to be comfortable
and trapped, than uncomfortable and free. When you are afraid to start over, you won’t embrace the challenge of change, because it seems easier to stay where you are.
It's Over(the execution stage)
One of the most common actions that occur when couples break up is that couples usually get back together a few times before the break up is final. When you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a long period of time it is quite natural for couples to find an excuse why the two shouldn’t break up.
As excuses arise it prolongs the breakup and makes it even harder to let go. The best thing you can do when breaking up from a toxic relationship is staying committed to your decision to be free. This is true with our spiritual bondage, if your desire is to break up with the sin in your life it will require you to be committed to becoming free.
When you declare that it’s over, let it be over. This will require your will to be strong and your mind to be committed to what you declared out of your mouth. The question becomes, How do you stay committed to breaking up with the sin in your life? First, you need an accountability partner. There has to be somebody that you intentionally put in place that will hold you accountable for your actions.
Let me be honest, the struggle you are facing in your life, you will not be able to execute and navigate toward victory on your own. In this stage, you will have to become extremely honest with yourself and your accountability partner. Share your boundaries, your weaknesses, and the specifics of what you are struggling with.
Next, you need affirmation. You have to constantly speak victory over your life daily. This reminds you of where you are headed, who you are, and helps you maintain your focus of being free. There is power in the tongue. In fact, the Bible declares that life and death are in the power of the tongue. What you say is directly associated with how you will live!
Your words have power and your destiny can often be directed by what you declare out of your mouth! If you are going to execute your victory you have to let victory come out of your mouth. Also, in order to execute the breakup, you have to live out your assignment on the earth. God gives every believer an assignment. Don’t spend time bargaining with your flesh.
Go after your assignment. Living out your assignment or calling helps you to remain in alignment with God. When you are living out your assignment it assists you in the fight with sin because it’s harder for the enemy to get to you when you are operating in the place and purpose God has called you to operate in.
As excuses arise it prolongs the breakup and makes it even harder to let go. The best thing you can do when breaking up from a toxic relationship is staying committed to your decision to be free. This is true with our spiritual bondage, if your desire is to break up with the sin in your life it will require you to be committed to becoming free.
When you declare that it’s over, let it be over. This will require your will to be strong and your mind to be committed to what you declared out of your mouth. The question becomes, How do you stay committed to breaking up with the sin in your life? First, you need an accountability partner. There has to be somebody that you intentionally put in place that will hold you accountable for your actions.
Let me be honest, the struggle you are facing in your life, you will not be able to execute and navigate toward victory on your own. In this stage, you will have to become extremely honest with yourself and your accountability partner. Share your boundaries, your weaknesses, and the specifics of what you are struggling with.
Next, you need affirmation. You have to constantly speak victory over your life daily. This reminds you of where you are headed, who you are, and helps you maintain your focus of being free. There is power in the tongue. In fact, the Bible declares that life and death are in the power of the tongue. What you say is directly associated with how you will live!
Your words have power and your destiny can often be directed by what you declare out of your mouth! If you are going to execute your victory you have to let victory come out of your mouth. Also, in order to execute the breakup, you have to live out your assignment on the earth. God gives every believer an assignment. Don’t spend time bargaining with your flesh.
Go after your assignment. Living out your assignment or calling helps you to remain in alignment with God. When you are living out your assignment it assists you in the fight with sin because it’s harder for the enemy to get to you when you are operating in the place and purpose God has called you to operate in.
You're Finally Free (The Freedom Stage)
Whenever you break up from a toxic relationship with a significant other, you will gain the peace that you haven’t felt in a long time. There is a release that takes place in your mind and spirit that empowers you to walk into a new level of strength. The reality is when you finally become free everything inside of you will sense your new freedom.
True freedom will ease the pain of your past and direct the posture of your heart towards thanksgiving. During this stage, there will be much rejoicing because you have taken the devil’s best shot and through Jesus Christ, you have overcome the bondage of sin. You are experiencing freedom today because you didn’t accept your bondage.
Embrace New Possibilities
Sin no longer has control over you and new possibilities are awaiting you. Being a slave to sin has caused you to live beneath your potential, but now that you’re free the possibility of what you can become is limitless.
The break up of sin in your life has given you more time to explore new opportunities, new passions, new dreams, and new altitudes! Can you sense it? I am certain that you didn't realize how much space sin was taking in your life! Your time is now to explore a new direction and embrace a new journey in your faith.
The break up of sin in your life has given you more time to explore new opportunities, new passions, new dreams, and new altitudes! Can you sense it? I am certain that you didn't realize how much space sin was taking in your life! Your time is now to explore a new direction and embrace a new journey in your faith.
Soar Into Your Destiny
God didn’t lead you into spiritual freedom for you to be stagnant, but it is his desire that you soar into your destiny! There is something that God has given you that the world needs to experience. Sin made you settle, but freedom will unleash the opportunity for you to soar!There are gifts, dreams, and talents that have been dormant in your life! When sin gets you, it grabs everything that's connected to you. Now that you are free, there is nothing holding you down! The weight has been lifted and your wings have been repaired! Walk by faith and live without any fear of failure!